Over the past few weeks, I have noticed several movements, particularly on Facebook, urging consumers--nay, let us say people, for we are (hopefully) more than mere consumers--not to shop on Thanksgiving. Some of them are mild; others are a little angrier, accusing people of being "part of the problem" if they shop on Thanksgiving. While I do agree with this sentiment, I do not think it is necessarily the best way to go about convincing Thanksgiving shoppers to postpone their money-saving plans until Black Friday. Instead, I think we ought to go about the entire issue lovingly, appealing to people's sense of humanity.
Here is why I will not be shopping on Thanksgiving, and I hope you and yours will follow suit.
1. The Golden Rule
You might be familiar with this one--the whole "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" idea. I don't know about you, but I am pretty glad I do not have to work tomorrow--and I feel pretty bad for those of us who do. While there are those selfless civil servants--police, firemen, doctors, and the like--who will be at work tomorrow as a result of their necessity to society's safety and smooth operation--there is no necessity for someone in, for example, retail to be at work tomorrow. I would certainly not want to be told to come in to work tomorrow; I do not want to be the reason someone else has to go in.
As a Thanksgiving worker, one might console oneself with the idea of appropriate compensation--overtime or double time or some planned day off in the future. As a Thanksgiving shopper, one may justify one's decision to shop on a national holiday with the same consolation. However, there is no way to know whether the cashier on the other end of the transaction will actually be compensated in such a way. And to be honest, I would personally rather have the day at home with my family than a slightly larger paycheck. I imagine that most people in even a somewhat comfortable position probably share those sentiments.
If you are tempted to head out and shop tomorrow, ask yourself: Would I want to work today? If the answer is no, please stay home.
2. Entitlement
In a day and age where feelings of entitlement seem to be growing more prevalent, it seems to me like setting aside a holiday designated solely to gratitude is a pretty good idea. Even if we are grateful for all we have, forgetting to acknowledge our gratitude--even just to ourselves--is so easy in the face of all the obligations and responsibilities in our lives. Sending people to work on a day when most of us are home enjoying warm pies, piles of turkey, and some distant relative's green bean casserole may foster resentment in those who have to work, but will likely not foster gratitude in them (though we may hope they will at least feel grateful to be employed). In addition, keeping stores open on Thanksgiving can foster feelings of entitlement in the consumer, who may take for granted the fact that he or she can shop whenever he or she wants, regardless of, oh, you know, a national holiday meant for spending time with loved ones and acknowledging our blessings.
3. Work, Work,Work
This argument may seem contradictory to the one that precedes it, but I have to say it: Considering the long hours most people keep at work these days, they deserve some time off; they are--dare I say it?--entitled to it.
Just look at the statistics:
- Parents ages 25 to 54 spend an average of 8.8 hours per day at work. While that may not seem too outrageous, in 2012, 37% of those who held Bachelor's degrees or higher worked additional hours at home.
- In 2012, 34% of employed people age 15 and above worked on the weekends, as well as during the week. For people who held multiple jobs, the number jumped to 67%.
- Americans work an average of one month more per year than we did in 1970.
On November 6, I saw a house fully decorated for Christmas--lights, tree, the whole package. I have to admit that even I thought it was a little too early for such displays. After all, Halloween was only a week gone by. And yet, a week and a half later, I found myself following suit.
I got some compliments, and I got some "it's-not-even-Thanksgiving yet's." But the compliments on my holiday spirit far outweighed any naysayers' comments.Why is that? Let's be frank: It's hard to knock colorful lights, cheerful trees, and a nativity set, but I think there's more to it than that.
I think this phenomenon that has come to be known as "holiday creep" is as much a symptom of the commercialization of Christmas as it is of a society where many people are over-worked, over-stressed, and overwhelmed. They are craving not only a distraction, but also a little joy, some unity, and some togetherness.
I should admit that I did feel a little wrong stringing lights as early as November 17--like I was betraying Thanksgiving. I didn't really have an excuse other than it was 75 degrees that day and hanging lights in that temperature was a lot more comfortable than the 35 degrees we had last weekend and the 30s and 40s in store for us this weekend. But for those people who will be working on Thanksgiving? Well--why not "skip" Thanksgiving altogether and dive headlong into Christmas? If Thanksgiving is going to be treated as just another work day for them, so bet it.
But I think that's sad. Everyone deserves to set aside a day--it is just one day--for gratitude.
If you are going to shop on Thanksgiving...
Please embody the spirit of the holiday. Treat the employees you encounter with love, kindness--and gratitude. They are there for you as much as for The (proverbial) Man making the money off you. Don't forget that they would likely rather be at home eating turkey and watching football with their families.
Gratitude On the Go
Looking for ways to be more grateful on a regular basis? Here are some tips!
1. Before you get out of bed in the morning, envision your day, and count all the good things you expect to happen. An example list might look like this:
1. I have a delicious lunch packed today
2. I am going to wear my favorite sweater
3. We're eating leftovers for dinner, so I don't have to cook tonight
4. The weather forecast looks great
2. When you go to bed at night, make a mental gratitude list that includes all the good things you can think of from your day.
3. Always remember to say thank you.
4. Never expect anyone to thank you (even when they should); do good for the sake of doing good and the way it makes you feel. When someone does thank you, let yourself revel in the moment, even if just briefly.
5. Focus on the positive. Instead of harping on how you wish things were, be grateful for the way things are.
Sources:
http://www.bls.gov/tus/charts/#work
http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=93364
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